Anumber of times, I have received private messages asking me why I preach weight loss but do not lose weight myself. Other times, I have had particular persons following my posts on social media and leaving negative comments to the tune of ‘you are fat, so do not give people weight loss or health advice”. I must say that I ignored these persons all along because I feel, I do not owe anyone an explanation.
About 2 weeks ago, I went live on my Facebook page to address the issue once and for all. You can watch the live video below. The reason why I am writing this post is because, I want you my faithful readers and 24/7 encouragers to know how I feel about these naysayers and what I have learned from their negative, non-constructive criticism. Because you know it is one thing to criticize and another to just cyber bully with every intention to make someone feel bad about themselves.
I have told you guys my story over and over again on social media. I have opened my heart to you all why I got fat and stayed fat for all these years and how gestational diabetes led to the creation of this website. On YouTube, I have shared my weight loss struggles and victories, no matter how small. I have made sure, that I painted the real picture and showed you the real me. I understand that as a weight loss coach, I should live what I preach and be a role model for those of you who follow me.
Weight loss is not the key to successful coaching!
Now here’s the thing; just because I am ‘fat’ does not make me less competent. Just because I am fat, does not stop me from sharing the very valuable knowledge I have acquired.In the course of my studies (Bachelor + Master in public health with a specialisation in nutrition and now as a PhD. candidate in public health nutrition) I have acquired the knowledge required to coach persons who desire to lose weight, create wholesome well-balanced meal plans etc.
Society does not dictate the way I live my life
Just because I have haven’t reached my ideal weight and do not look slim enough for some people, does not make me less of a weight loss coach. I have noticed that most naysayers are those people who do not know your story and how far you’ve come. They are people, who will do anything and everything to blur your shine. I have noticed that these people cannot do what you do, and cannot have what you have and will not also let you have it.
Your place of transit is not your destination
People who will do what it takes to bring you down in public and cause you to make your place of transit your destination. Yes I am fat but I am not as fat as I was 2 years or 1 year or even 3 months ago. Yes I am struggling with my weight but I am in my place of transit. A place of learning to implement what I have learned. A place of putting theory into practice and I will not wait to look like a weight loss coach (however a weight loss coach should look like) to share my knowledge.
The problem with some of us is that we let society and societal norms dictate our lifestyle and our mindset. Because the media paints a picture portraying weight loss coaches as skinny, we think a skinny weight loss coach is a healthy coach. Wrong! No two persons have the same body composition, shape or metabolism. Two persons cannot lose weight at the same rate because their life situations differ. With 3 miscarriages, 3 difficult births per c-section and wounds that have been difficult to heal, not forgetting a ton of medication, it has not been easy but I have never and will never give up. I am on my way to MY DESTINATION, my HEALTHY weight loss goal. Not the one society expects of me.
The aim of this post is to encourage someone today. Do not let societal norms push you to fake it or put pressure on you. Do not let anyone dictate how you should live your life, how you should look like or the way you should behave. Be you and dance to the tune of your own music and to the beat of your own drum. You owe being healthy to yourself and no one else. Do it at your pace and to the best of your ability. You may not have achieved your goal in life yet, but it doesn’t mean you cannot or should not give a helping hand, or encourage whoever needs it especially if you are competent to do so. Be true to yourself! Be you! Do you!
Happy new week loves.